Author, Life and BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari, empowers loved ones of those with Borderline Personality Disorder to take care of themselves, cope more effectively with someone with BPD in their lives, and to find their own healing on the other side of BPD via her coaching services for loved ones of those with BPD.
Sometimes that healing means dealing with ruptured relationships or ending a relationship. Other times for the loved one it may mean that the person with BPD has just dismissed them outright. Whether you, as a loved one of someone with BPD, are currently still in contact with the borderline in your life or not, there is a tremendous amount of pain and suffering on the other side of BPD . Suffering and pain that, for many, means loved ones also need their own healing and recovery. This is true whether one has experienced a relationship break-up is contemplating leaving or whether one is trying to make the relationship work.
BPD Coaching With A.J. Mahari
A.J. Mahari on Coaching For Loved Ones of BPD
Here's what a few of my Non Borderline clients have said about working with me as a Life/BPD coach:
"I thought I had met the woman of my dreams - the love of my life. 9 months into our relationship I found out she had been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. I didn't know what that meant at all. It turned out that within 18 months there was no doubt in my mind that this woman ended up being my worst nightmare - determined to ensure we were enemies. I've never felt so alone in my life. I had never been in so much pain in my life. I turned to the internet and started to read up on BPD. As luck, maybe providence, would have it, I found A.J.'s sites. I then purchased a few of her ebooks and audio programs. They were so helpful but I was in so much pain. I decided to purchase some life coaching sessions with her and that was the best choice I could have ever made. A.J. really saw me through some of the worst pain of my life. She really helped me to understand what I needed to learn so that I could decide what path I needed to take. I would highly recommend that anyone who finds themselves in a relationship with someone with BPD talk to A.J. Mahari. She knows BPD inside and out. She cares. She listens and supports. She is so wise and so patient." - Mike J. - U.S.A.
"After two years of an on-off-on-off again type of relationship with a man with BPD and the fact that no amount of reading about BPD was getting me to the kind of understanding that could help me to actually find a way out of the cycle and the pain I contacted A.J. Mahari. A.J. is an amazing life coach. She helped me to understand so much and to set goals in just 4 months of sessions that helped me to set myself free from my borderline ex - something I wasn't able to do by myself for two years." - Nancy G. - South Africa
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"I am the mother of a 25 year old daughter with Borderline Personality Disorder. I was at my wits end and not coping really at all. I had seen several therapists and been involved in going to some councelling with my daughter as well. She is resisiting any and all help right now. I wasn't getting any help. I didn't know what to do or what I needed. Then I found A.J.'s websites and found out she is not only a life coach but someone who has recovered from BPD. I read about her having a mother with BPD and even though I worried she might take my daughter's side and not understand me for some reason, I was pleasantly surprised to find that A.J. is both extremely knowledgeable about BPD but also that she didn't judge me at all and was and continues to be, in fact, so supportive and compassionate. I am learning how to cope. I am getting my life back. My other kids are getting their mother back and I feel I owe so much of this to A.J. She is such a God-send in my life and I am so glad she is out here working with people like me who might otherwise just lose their minds and continue to suffer." Marta V. - Sydney, Australia
"I have been working with A.J. Mahari now for almost a year. I've had so much to sort out and well I also did a lot of resisting and going from periods of no contact with my borderline ex-girlfriend to getting back with her. Each time, it was the same and then when I'd have my next session with A.J. I'd feel like I was starting all over again. It was A.J. who kept reminding me that I was growing and I was learning and that it wasn't about failing. She was so patient and understanding and has not ever judged me, not once. I am making wonderful progress thanks to A.J.'s compassion, wisdom, and understanding. A.J. has been so clear about how my experience is my own process and how I get to make my own choices. I've learned how a lot of my old choices kept me stuck going back for more pain and punishment and how as I learned to make new choices with A.J.'s support and guidance I started to get new results. I am winning my freedom. I am making progress. I continue to work with A.J. and learn from her. She has been such an amazing support and continues to teach me so much." - Dan Lansing, - Canada
Many who come to suspect and/or find out that a loved one has Borderline Personality Disorder start from ground zero having been thrust into a world of their own hurt and confusion with no frame of reference to understand what is manifested in relationships by those with BPD or why.
Working with me as your coach can and will help you to understand what you are going through and why. Even more importantly I empower my non borderline clients to set and achieve goals that help them to end their own confusion and suffering, whether they choose to stay in relationships or in contact with the person with BPD in their lives or not.
BPD Coaching With A.J. Mahari
If you are loved one of someone with BPD or have had someone in your life with BPD and you would like to move forward in your life and heal your pain and confusion and any remaining sense of wanting or needing closure please feel free to purchase and book a session or sessions with me. I would be happy to talk with you and to work with you.
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All responses given by The BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari, are meant to convey general information and are not intended to be in anyway a specific recommendation or commentary on any personal life situation. Coaching is not therapy. It is also not a replacement for professional therapy. Coaching can be an effective adjunct to professional therapy for those with Borderline Personality Disorder and/or their loved ones.
Punishment and Revenge in Borderline Personality Disorder
