Borderline Personality Disorder Interactive

A.J. Mahari's Ask the BPD Coach Interactive Blog

A.J. Mahari, BPD Coach and Life Coach, shares her substantial in depth expertise when it comes to Borderline Personality Disorder with those with BPD and loved ones. Her main website about Borderline Personality Disorder can be found at Borderline Personality Disorder Inside Out

A.J. Mahari will now be responding to your questions about Borderline Personality Disorder in much more in depth fashion from her perspective as a professional BPD/Life Coach since 1998. With a great deal of expert experience coaching thousands of clients - clients with Borderline Personality Disorder and clients who have someone in their lives (or have had someone in their lives) who has BPD.

A.J. Mahari who herself recovered from BPD in 1995, and has been working online to help others effected by BPD on both sides of BPD since 1998. Mahari also had two parents with BPD (her father also had NPD) along with a past relationship with someone with BPD/NPD. Her experience of BPD from all sides and her recovery from all of these toxic relationships give her a unique 360 full-circle understanding of Borderline Personaltiy Disorder.

Her first hand, inside out expertise is unparalleled on the internet. Her prolific writing, articles, Ebooks, Audio Programs and Videos and way of explaining the many facets of BPD along with coaching borderlines and non borderlines (loved ones) alike to increased awareness, health, and the achievement of their desired goals is renowned as the many testimonals of her knowledge and work and expertise in this field are evidence of.

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The Enemy Within in Borderline Personality Disorder

The Enemy Within in Borderline Personality Disorder. Is the person with BPD his or her own worst enemy? "Something I've always wanted to know about Borderline Personality Disorder is why does it feel like I have an enemy inside of me? As someone who has BPD am I my own worst enemy and does that enemy really live inside me? If so, what does that actually mean? Who am I?" - Chris W., Ontario, Canada

The BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari responds:

Chris, let me first say, in this response, that I absolutely thought and therefore felt the same way that you do now, when I had BPD. Because I have recovered from BPD I know that recovery from BPD is possible.

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BPD Coaching With A.J. Mahari

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If you would like to ask the BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari, a question, please email her at [email protected] with your question. Please also indicate if you would be okay with your name being used if A.J. responds to your question here. If not, please suggest a pseudonym that you would like your question attributed to.

Please Note: Sending a question to "Ask The BPD Coach", A.J. Mahari, at the above email does not in any way constitute hiring A.J. as your coach. To purchase life coaching or BPD coaching sessions please visit Touchsonte Life Coaching or go directly to Phoenix Rising Publications to purchase life or BPD Coaching with A.J. Mahari.

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All responses given by The BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari, are meant to convey general information and are not intended to be in anyway a specific recommendation or commentary on any personal life situation. Coaching is not therapy. It is also not a replacement for professional therapy. Coaching can be an effective adjunct to professional therapy for those with Borderline Personality Disorder and/or their loved ones.

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Why Does Borderline Personality Hurt Me So Much - I can't stand the pain what do I do?

I am a 54 year old woman with Borderline Personality Disorder. Why does it hurt so much having BPD? Why am I always in so much pain? I don't understand where the pain is coming from, what it means, or what I am supposed to do with it or about it. Every time my therapist starts to talk about pain I just block out everything she says. I just can't hear it. Help! What can I do to deal with all of this pain that I just can't stand? - M.W.B. - Utah, U.S.A.

BPD Coach A.J. Mahari responds:

M.W.B., as you ask about and describe Borderline Personality Disorder is a very painful mental illness. There is an intense and heightened sensitivity in those diagnosed with BPD. Rejection sensitivity that goes hand in hand with a fear of abandonment and/or fear of perceived abandonment that is thought to be remotely possible in the near future or that one has come to expect. This fear of abandonment, for most with BPD, which has its roots in the past in what I've termed the legacy of abandonment in BPD becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy for those with BPD  due to living through the borderline false self due to the absence of a known authentic self.

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BPD Coaching With A.J. Mahari

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© The BPD Coach A.J. Mahari and Touchstone Life Coaching August 28, 2009 -  All rights reserved.

If you would like to ask the BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari, a question, please email her at [email protected] with your question. Please also indicate if you would be okay with your name being used if A.J. responds to your question here. If not, please suggest a pseudonym that you would like your question attributed to.

Please Note: Sending a question to "Ask The BPD Coach", A.J. Mahari, at the above email does not in any way constitute hiring A.J. as your coach. To purchase life coaching or BPD coaching sessions please visit Touchsonte Life Coaching or go directly to Phoenix Rising Publications to purchase life or BPD Coaching with A.J. Mahari.

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All responses given by The BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari, are meant to convey general information and are not intended to be in anyway a specific recommendation or commentary on any personal life situation. Coaching is not therapy. It is also not a replacement for professional therapy. Coaching can be an effective adjunct to professional therapy for those with Borderline Personality Disorder and/or their loved ones.

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Does My Borderline Wife Really Love Me?

Ask the BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari, questions about Borderline Personailty Disorder on her interactive microblog. I have been married to my wife for 3 years. It has been a living hell in so many ways. It is painful loving her. It is intense. She has cheated on me, hit me, rages at me often. I really love her but feel that our relationship isn't working. My question is: does my borderline wife really love me? J.B., U.S.A.

BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari Responds:

J.B., as I remind most people with questions, please know you are not alone. This is a question that I get very often from the partners, husbands and wives of those with Borderline Personality Disorder. You have identified for yourself that, at this point, your relationship is a "living hell" and "not working". Your BPD wife has as you've said, "cheated" hit you and rages at  you often. None of these things you are experiencing from your BPD wife are love. You are quite right to be asking the question, "does [your] borderline wife really love [you]?

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BPD Coaching With A.J. Mahari

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All responses given by The BPD Coach A.J. Mahari are meant to convey general information and are not intended to be in anyway a specific recommendation or commentary on any personal life situation. Coaching is not therapy, it is also not a replacement for professional therapy. Coaching can be an effective adjunct to professional therapy for those with Borderline Personality Disorder and/or their loved ones.

Please Note: Sending a question to "Ask The BPD Coach", A.J. Mahari, at the above email does not in any way constitute hiring A.J. as your coach. To purchase life coaching or BPD coaching sessions please visit Touchsonte Life Coaching or go directly to Phoenix Rising Publications to purchase life or BPD Coaching with A.J. Mahari.

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Can I Recover From Borderline Personality Disorder?

"I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder about 6 years ago. I am now 35. I feel as if life has passed me by because as someone with BPD I just can't seem to make any type of relationship last or work. There is so much pain I feel all the time. I am so depressed. I just keep hurting people who I try to get to know. No one in my family is even speaking to me right now. Everything in my stinking borderline life pretty much sucks. I don't even get why "this" is happening to me. My question is, can I really recover from Borderline Personality Disorder?" -- Mary Mcallistar - Alberta, Canada

BPD Coach A.J. Mahari responds:

Mary, so much of what you describe is often expressed by many of my coaching clients who have Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). It is important to give yourself permission to feel how you feel without judging yourself. Having Borderline Personality Disorder is a complicated and complex way to experience life. Having BPD is often a very painful experience for those diagnosed with it.

Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder, in some circles, still seems to carry with it stigma and controversy. However, as one who myself recovered 14 years ago, yes, it is possible to recover from Borderline Personality Disorder.

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BPD Coaching With A.J. Mahari

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All responses given by The BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari, are meant to convey general information and are not intended to be in anyway a specific recommendation or commentary on any personal life situation. Coaching is not therapy, it is also not a replacement for professional therapy. Coaching can be an effective adjunct to professional therapy for those with Borderline Personality Disorder and/or their loved ones.

Please Note: Sending a question to "Ask The BPD Coach", A.J. Mahari, at the above email does not in any way constitute hiring A.J. as your coach. To purchase life coaching or BPD coaching sessions please visit Touchsonte Life Coaching or go directly to Phoenix Rising Publications to purchase life or BPD Coaching with A.J. Mahari.

 

Ask The BPD Coach A.J. Mahari

Ask the BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari, your questions on or about Borderline Personality Disorder whether you have BPD or have a loved one with BPD. BPD Coach A.J. Mahari invites you to interact with her on her newest blog which is actually a microblog.

Do you have Borderline Personality Disorder or do you know and/or love someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? Is there something about BPD that you are trying to understand right now? Is there something about BPD you would like to ask the BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari? Are you interested in finding out more about what BPD Coaching is? Would you like to read what, A.J. Mahari, who recovered from BPD 14 years ago has to share from the inside out? Would you like to know more about A.J.'s journey as a loved one of someone in her life (3 people actually) with BPD? Are you searching for closure?

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If you answered yes to even one of the questions above than it might just be very helpful for you that you found this latest site of A.J. Mahari's which is her interactive microblog. A blog upon which A.J. Mahari will respond to questions asked of her on the subject of BPD.

If you would like to ask the BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari, a question, please email her at [email protected] with your question. Please also indicate if you would be okay with your name being used if A.J. responds to your question here or not. If not, please suggest a pseudonym that you would like your question attributed to.

 

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