I am a 54 year old woman with Borderline Personality Disorder. Why does it hurt so much having BPD? Why am I always in so much pain? I don't understand where the pain is coming from, what it means, or what I am supposed to do with it or about it. Every time my therapist starts to talk about pain I just block out everything she says. I just can't hear it. Help! What can I do to deal with all of this pain that I just can't stand? - M.W.B. - Utah, U.S.A.
M.W.B., as you ask about and describe Borderline Personality Disorder is a very painful mental illness. There is an intense and heightened sensitivity in those diagnosed with BPD. Rejection sensitivity that goes hand in hand with a fear of abandonment and/or fear of perceived abandonment that is thought to be remotely possible in the near future or that one has come to expect. This fear of abandonment, for most with BPD, which has its roots in the past in what I've termed the legacy of abandonment in BPD becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy for those with BPD due to living through the borderline false self due to the absence of a known authentic self.
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